What is child abuse? Physical, psychological or sexual maltreatment with an immature child who does not know what sexual abuse is or what that particular body part is used for.
- Did you listen to your child when they told you about the abuse?
- What was your response?
- Did you make your child feel comfortable telling you every single detail?
- What kind of relationship do you have with your child?
- Do they feel your presence and involvement in their issues?
- Do they have any language for RAPE?
It is because you didn’t raise your children in a way that they might know their bodies can be violated.
- What is your level of courage when it comes to confronting the abuser?
- Do you have the courage to talk about it? No?! Why?
- Why are you afraid to open up?
Why do you want your child to go through the suffering that no one would want to happen to anyone anywhere in the world? Do you understand the delicacy of this matter? Have you any idea about the after-effects on the child himself? Around 1 billion children are physically abused worldwide.
Who is responsible?
Who is responsible?
Parents are responsible for not developing trust between them; society is responsible for letting the barbarians roam freely around there. They don’t speak against them, and they get the courage to humiliate kids and teenage girls.
Exploiting an immature child’s feelings by sexually harassing them and giving them a shut-up call not to tell anyone, or the consequences will be severe. Such traumas have very strict after-effects on a child’s life.
After-effects of child abuse:
Let’s talk about the after-effects. A sexually abused child feels guilty, harms himself in several ways, blames himself for every problem, has low self-esteem, insomnia, fears of interacting with anyone, nightmares, flashbacks, sexual dysfunction, drug addiction and self-harm, chronic pain, suicidal thoughts and whatnot. He fears places that remind him of such an incident, a check-up from a doctor, the smell of blood haunts him and makes him restless. His desire to live like a normal human being, his self-esteem and his willingness to fly in the sky among his friends fade away. He becomes continuously depressed and feels everyone is his enemy.
- He keeps hiding from the world of ordinary people.
- His body stops functioning like other standard bodies.
- He feels numb and useless every second of his life. He sees no motives behind his existence.
- PTSD and PPD become a part of his entire life, and he cannot eliminate them from his life no matter what.
- The fear of his parents or society’s reaction upon telling the incident kills him from deep inside.
Bottling up such emotions and not asking anyone for help leads to more isolation, usually ending in suicide or abnormality, which cannot be compensated at any cost.
Therefore, keeping a friendly relationship with your kids and kids around is very necessary. There should at least be a person with whom any child can easily share his problems to avoid such serious issues. With this awareness, the attacker would stay within limits and not harm any child in the future.