Allah has sent people in the form of couples and made their relation permissible by nuptial. Yet, he has granted permission of separation if they fail to fulfil their duties. Being a husband and wife, a man is bound to take a stand for his woman and support her in front of everyone. Anyone who fails to protect his woman in front of others fails the marriage as a whole.

Marriage and Divorce

A husband has the unilateral right of divorce that no one can take away from him. Yet, he is restricted via the marriage contract as per clause no 19. this does not mean he is free to divorce his woman just because his mother or sisters are not agreeing or some other irrelevant excuse.

I have been reading multiple posts in a group called “Vakeel Online” regarding divorce. People post about their queries and ask for irrelevant suggestions. There came a post of a woman who said that her husband had divorced her because of his mother. Now, he wants to reconcile after two years and says that he has not divorced her. Thus, she can come back and stay with him.

Here, I would mention a narrative of Prophet صَلَّىٰ ٱللَّٰهُ عَلَيْهِ وَآلِهِ وَسَلَّمَ where he clearly mentioned that 3 times divorce in one sitting is divorce as a whole. However, there is a defined time period for reconciliation (which is not applicable after 3 divorces).

That is why it is considered an unpleasant act in Islam, and people are asked not to take hasty decisions.

“And if he has divorced her (for the third time), she is not lawful to him afterward until (after) she marries a husband other than him. And if the latter husband divorces her (or dies), there is no blame upon the woman and her former husband for returning to each other if they think that they can keep (within) the limits of Allāh. These are the limits of Allāh, which He makes clear to a people who know.” (Qurʿān 2:230)

‘A’isha (RA), reported, “Rifā`a Al Quradhī’s wife came to the Prophet (peace and blessings upon him) and explained, “I used to be with Rifā`a however he divorced me and made my divorce irrevocable. I later got married to `Abdur Raḥman ibn Al Zubayr; however, what he has with him resembles the border of a garment.” (She was accusing him of being impotent). The Prophet asked, “Do you wish to return to Rifā`a? That is not possible until you taste his honey and he tastes your honey (i.e. your marriage with `Abdur Rahman ibn Al Zubayr is consummated).” (Bukhārī)

People should realize that divorce is not a game, neither do these relationships work according to your mood. They need patience and tolerance to work out. Setting boundaries for a healthy lifestyle is mandatory and taking a stand for your spouse is the basic right.

May Allah Talla guide us to the righteous path and fill our hearts with Imaan. Ameen.